Every act of sexuality is an act of seeking wholeness.
We learn this from tantra, and the philosophies of Ancient Greece.
If that is so, then what about those acts that are harmful?
Are they really acts of seeking wholeness?
Our ancestors knew that for sexuality to truly be healing, it would inevitably require the sacred to meet the profane.
And yes.
It’s uncomfortable.
With UNSHAMED (my movie) for instance, I’ve receive pushback on some of the fantasies mentioned in the write up.
How can I, as a therapist, support certain acts (for instance “r@pe”) being seen as fantasies?
What I learned as a therapist, is that none of us get to decide what turns people on.
When we are faced with fantasies which feel disturbing, we are dealing with the shadows of our collective unconscious- the one that exists today and has existed for the last 3000 years.
Our job as therapists and educators is to visit this underworld-
to help people heal,
live more fully,
more purposely.
And most importantly…
so that these fantasies
(that are true for so many of us)
become less likely to cross
from the realm of thought
to the realm of action,
where they do harm.
In this short clip I share the moving story of a female client.
And yes,
it’s uncomfortable.
Upcoming events:
Unshamed –
Next Screenings
– Bogota: 28-29 April
– London: 01-02 May
The Medicine of Sex
A 7-day course – Spain – Starts 27 September 2026
