The why – is where the healing is.

I was walking in the forest today when a memory came from the screening of unshamed (my documentary) in Los Angeles a few weeks ago.

What stood out for most people in the audience was this simple yet potent question.

“Why?” 

“Why do I want this fantasy?”

It’s the third and most important question in my trilogy:
What, how, why?

We can be quite good at the “what.”
“I want a daddy fantasy”
We might have a sense of the how?
“I want him dressed in a suit”.

But we seldom reflect on the why…
Yet the why is where the fantasy can become healing.

Our sexual fantasies show us the qualities we are seeking for us to become more whole.

So paying attention to them, and mainly to the why, can allow us to get a deeper sense of what’s in the shadows, what wants to be seen.
We get to reconcile the parts of us that are in conflict, that have been fragmented. 

And, we can become more whole.

In workshops, like the Medicine of Sex, where we spend the whole week discussing, enacting, playing with desires and fantasies, the Why becomes even more poweful.
 
In a room full of men, all with varying tastes, ages, and backgrounds, the why is what unites us.

And when we meet each other there, we truly connect.
And then,
Magic happens. 💫

Unshamed
I’m super excited to share this 2-min clip of unshamed on just this topic.(Screening happens in London 01-02 may fyi….)

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