We’re seeking safety. Safety and sexuality are directly interlinked.  Early—humans and pre-humans decided who they mated with depending on how safe they felt.    For men to have an erection, we need to feel safe, our nervous system needs to regulate.   Having worked with clients fantasies for years, I have seen that most of the time, in our sexual fantasies, we are also seeking safety.   But when we fantasize about being bound, rạped, or other actions that might seem unsafe, for instance, ...

We are here for love What do I mean when I say that we are here for love?  I believe that the universe is experiencing a massive evolutionary process which began billions of years ago and that will continue for billions years more. I believe humans incarnated because we had an important role to play in this evolution.  Only humans have the ability to experience circumstances and emotions in the way that we do.  To feel pleasure, pain, pride and shame, as we do.  I believe each of us is here ...

LOVE ❤️ I learned about love by sitting with fear. It came as a medicine for it, as a response to the fear, anger, rage I was experiencing at the time.  I learned in that moment that love is a force that could not be expressed in words or understood by the mind.  Love is a force of nature that can be felt in the body, somatically and energetically.  But love is not a polarity. It is not the opposite of hate, or fear, but rather a medicine for it.  As a neutral force, it is the universal ...

As a teacher’s teacher, one of my favourite things is inviting people to know their power. To become aware of the benefits of their presence in this world.  What changes do you bring to the lives of others? What are the benefits they experience?  This exploration can be radical in a world where we are invited to “be careful not to toot our own horn” or are often asked, “Who do you think you are?” So yes, it requires us to live differently from the world around us and land into a different ...

MEET YOUR EDGES I edited this 5 min video from a call I recently hosted regarding my upcoming Medicine of Eros retreat. Check it out, I hope you like it.  The jist of it:  Sexuality-based practices are not just about having a pleasurable experience, but about becoming a different person in the world in every moment, every day.  They can take us on a wild ride from one end of our being to the other.  They invite us to meet our edges: our shadows, our power, our shame, our pleasure.  ...